anyone invited to a close friends wedding
will go through similar angst, so why not
be kind to them and make their job that
little bit easier instead, by giving them
a gift list to help inspire them.
everyone will be working to the same budget, so make sure that there
is a wondrous choice of lovely gifts to suit everyone's pocket,
ranging in price from the very reasonable and very affordable to
the monstrously lavish and equally more expensive.
who love you will probably be prepared to part with the most that
they can afford, but presenting them with a long line of things
that are all way beyond their means can put a real dampener on the
you are the deserving bride or groom you also need to consider the
type of person who will be buying your gifts for you. It's no good
going for an obscure specialist shop that nobody can get to, or
signing up to an online service if no one has access to the internet
or even knows how to use a computer.
gone are the days when people were expected to okay their choice
with the mother of the bride, and in its place are a huge range
of services - available on the high street, over the phone and online
- to take care of the whole process instead, leaving mum free to
concentrate on other things at this extremely busy time.
department stores run gift list services so buyers can log on, phone
up, or pay a visit to the store to see what is still left on that
all important gift list. They can then simply make their selection
and pay for it. This is an incredibly good way of ensuring that
you don't end up with more toasters than you can handle.
such as Debenhams, John Lewis, Marks And Spankers and Argos all
offer reliable, accessible services and have a huge range of items
available to grace your wedding gift list. Alternatively, take a
look at www.wrapit.co.uk,
which teams all the choice and affordability of a department store,
with the utter convenience of the web.
benefit of this type of system is that every last detail can be
taken care of very quickly and easily, such as wrapping, delivery
direct to the wedding venue, and even the message on the card. This
saves guests a whole lot of hassle, and means they don't have to
lug gifts round with them in the car or worry about forgetting them.
LIST OR NOT TO LIST
homewares and furnishings are all well and good, but if you're already
pretty sorted for this type of thing, or even if you just want to
be a little more unique and original, don't be afraid to really
push the boat out in terms of letting your imagination run riot.
or holiday vouchers might be of more use to you, for example, or
perhaps you'd like to look forward to an adventure weekend or a
spa break, or be the proud owner of fine wine, art or antiques.
Luxurious, indulgent things like this don't necessarily have to
break the bank, and guests may even decide to club together and
split the expense.
research by Direct Line reveals that around two-thirds of newlyweds
would prefer cash to crockery, which adds up to around £2,000
when you consider the average couple received 29 gifts, costing
you decide to take this approach, it's a nice polite touch to let
guests know what you're saving up for, such as getting a new kitchen,
or landscaping the garden, then to drop them a line once the work's
BRIDAL REGISTRY SERVICE
many people will be more than happy to help out with is your honeymoon
specialists, Travel Counsellors, also offer a unique bridal registry
service for those who'd like to add 'Honeymoon' to their wedding
the happy couple the Bridal Registry Service often means a dream
honeymoon that they would not otherwise have been able to afford"
says Archana Nathwani, Redhotcurry.com's travel counsellor "And
friends and family will be delighted that they have helped you start
your married life in style. A deposit of just £10 opens the
honeymoon account. We provide personalised gift cards similar
to those offered by department stores to include with your
wedding invitations. There is no minimum contribution but as the
average value of a honeymoon booked through the service is over
£3,000 most guests are clearly quite generous".
can book this bridal registry service through Archana Nathwani on
Tel: 01635 873547 (firstname.lastname@example.org)
or through the Travel Counsellors website www.travelcounsellors.co.uk
something totally different, with a heartwarming and charitable
edge, take a look at www.alternativeweddinglist.co.uk
can be difficult to narrow down your choice of gift list provider
and make a final decision, so it's helpful to ask yourself what
you realistically need and what you will actually make use of. Think
about colour schemes and themes within your home too, if necessary,
and make sure you have somewhere to store any gifts you won't make
use of immediately.
be afraid to put down a few frivolous things either, such as jewellery,
posh toiletries or cosmetics, fancy gadgets or even designer clothes
and accessories. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to ask
for all sorts of things you'd never normally splash out on yourself,
so make sure you make the most of it.
you've reached a decision, it's time to inform your wedding guests.
Wedding etiquette has changed a great deal over the years, and nowadays
many couples are choosing to send out their gift list with the invites,
rather than wait for people to accept and then contact the mother
of the bride for further details.
not only saves on postage, it also gives buyers more time to look
into what they want to lavish upon you, although some couples find
it too presumptuous to be this forthcoming. But it's only like slipping
in directions to the wedding venue or details about nearby hotels,
which people tend to find very helpful.
it may be convenient and suitable to e-mail details through to people,
especially if you're using an online list, because that way you
can provide a link to the relevant page in there too.
you go for, do your best to strike a balance between the functional
and the indulgent. And don't forget about your guest's circumstances
in terms of what they can afford, where and how they will be buying,
and most importantly, what they'd like to give you both to wish
you well in what will hopefully be your long and happy married life.